Friday, December 3, 2010

My "aha" moment

Ok so I've been reading a few inspiring post by some very intelligent ladies on the subject of interracial dating.  I'll say this, I love me some WM, AM, and HM. I'm a 24 year old single BW that's seriously looking for something better than the "gangsta".  A lot of the points I've read thus far are valid.  For some reason BM feel they have the right to dictate who we as BW decide to give our hearts (or bodies for that matter) to.




Only you know your heart.  Only you know what you like and don't like.  I think it's a crime that other people feel the need to "put us in our place" when it comes to our personal lives.  It sickens me that BM feel they can date whomever they wish and yet when we BW come to our senses and begin to date out it's a problem.  We are now "betraying" our "people".  Seriously?!  These are people I don't know and probably will never know.

The way I see it is this, I'm not going to be dating a BM just because society says that's who I'm suppose to be with, or because that's what make other people comfortable.  Whatever man I'm with, I will be with him because HE makes ME happy and I enjoy doing the same for HIM.  White, Hispanic, Asian or Martian for all I care.  If he's attractive to me and attracted to me we can work something out.



I want to say thank you to the two ladies whose blog post I read today because you have opened my eyes to see that I'm not the only woman who feels how I feel and thinks how I think.  I no longer feel alone in my heart.  Thank you.
Posted by Bella Donna at 9:24 AM

2 comments:

  1. Mrs. GlamDecember 8, 2010 at 5:20 PM

    Great blog! Looking forward to seeing more from you :)

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  2. AdoringblackwomenDecember 9, 2010 at 11:14 AM

    Let me start by saying that I absolutely agree with you. Anybody should be able to see/date/marry whoever they want, regardless of their race,ethnicity, religion etc. I myself prefer dating black women, simply because I am very attracted to them. However I also understand (but not agree with it) why many black men would accuse black women of betraying their own people. This is a phenomenon among many groups of people (not only among african-americans). Whenever a party of people oppressed another party of people, the oppressed people will feel resentment towards the oppressor. However as things change over time, it's important to make it clear that not all people of one race/nationality/religion are the same way. I feel that considering it's 2010 this should not be an issue anymore. And looking at recent statistics it's clear that more and more people are thinking the same way considering interracial marriages are on the rise.

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